my friends would say I'm a good friend, but I scarcely talk to most of my friends. my interest in them comes and goes like my typical hyperfixations. so I definitely don't feel like a good friend.

I’m a good friend except when it comes to keeping in touch with people I don’t see regularly. In that sense, #SocialMedia has been a godsend. I can keep up with what my friends share and possibly comment on or use it as a trigger to contact them directly. And my (over)sharing lets them do the same.

QY. When you've got me, I try and give you my all, and give you the space to be your all. The big caveat, though, is that I like my solitude and make myself probably not as available as a (justifiably) Strong Yes.

I don't know if I can answer that. I would say qualified no, but I'm often too critical of myself. You'd have to ask them.

This question has to be asked a representative group of people from which I believe I'm their friend.

I kinda feel like this isn't a valid question. Whether I'm a good friend seems like it's purely subjective, and depends entirely on my friend's perception of me. How I think people perceive me probably differs vastly from how they really do.

@evan

I said "strong yes" based on what my friends have told me. Not every friendship has been a success all the time, but I've had a lot of friends tell me things like "You're the only person I can cry with", and I think that makes me a pretty fucking good friend.

I hope so. I try to be .

I really struggled to say "Strong Yes", but I'm going to. I think any of my friends would say that, and its what I want to be.

I am my own harshest critic. So, maybe the person I'm *not* a good friend to is me.

I wish I were a better friend, but I fail at that way too often. Qualified no.

strong yes, as arrogant as that may sound, but yeah I'm a warm person and funny and attentive. I could be a bit better of a friend towards myself sometimes though.

I plead the fifth!!!!

Based on the numbers so far I think there’s a Lake Wobegon effect in play

friends tell me SY, but I'm terrible at initiating contact with them. Also, the sample is probably biased.

Thanks to my #autism, I'm terrible at maintaining and building friendships. I am a very loyal friend, though, and I would hope that my friends know they can rely on me to do whatever I can if they ever need help.

I have a really bad habit of falling off the face of the earth with people who are close to me. It's been going on for years, and I'm not sure how to reconcile it.

idk, lemme ask my friends

I'm gonna pull the ' 1 in 10,000' card[1] and ask: how should I interprend the difference between "qualified yes" and a "strong yes"? Yes, English isn't my native tongue, hence the confusion.

1] https://xkcd.com/1053/

qualified no.

I need to text back more.

This is a good one. A lot of people said they weren't qualified to answer.

I said qualified yes. I know my friendship means a lot to people, but I also have a hard time remembering to reach out.

I’m a good listener and I’m quite good at keeping private things private. People confide in me a lot and I feel pretty good about that.

Like you though I struggle with reaching out. I’m very much an introvert and combine that with adhd and I’ll just sort of disappear for months at a time unless somebody reels me back in.