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Being raised by religious fundamentalists can lead to perfectionism, fear of criticism, hyper-defensiveness, being critical of others, & difficulty accepting help from others. These stem from our parents placing conditions on their love for us: We must be 100% obedient to them AND God; ie, sinless.

We internalize these conditions & apply them to our self to be worthy of love. Hyper-defensiveness & fear of criticism arise because IT WAS NOT SAFE TO BE IMPERFECT in our family. #ReligiousTrauma
I am aware that I suffer from the same detrimental attributes, I have been unlearning and relearning for sometime now.

Thing is I wasn't raised in a religious family, not at all, but I was raised by an alcoholic.

Interesting that being raised by an alcoholic has many of the same side effects as being raised by religious fundamentalists.