I know who needed to read this 3 years ago but maybe it can help someone else now, it's okay to come out as #transgender, but you can't expect everyone in your life outside of your relatives to keep the same kind of relationship with you after they know. Because even if you're the same person, you're changing the way you present yourself, gender, body and mind, especially if you're on Hormone Replacement Therapy. And it doesn't have anything to do with transphobia if most relationships drastically change or stop altogether because of that fact.
The sad truth is that nobody but you can know yourself deep down, everyone else only knows the person you're presenting. And relationships can very well continue after a coming out, but not necessarily, and there's nothing you or they can do about that.
The sad truth is that nobody but you can know yourself deep down, everyone else only knows the person you're presenting. And relationships can very well continue after a coming out, but not necessarily, and there's nothing you or they can do about that.
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Roland Häder
•Hypolite Petovan
•Roland Häder
•And it does matter what is between the legs for us (heterosexuals) a lot. I'm not talking here about society, that they (trans) are accepted in society, more on a romantic/sexual level. As loose friends they are okay with me (and her, too) as long as they respect our preferences back.
Hypolite Petovan
•If you are confortable in this sexual orientation then you do not have to tell about it publicly. Not sure what even « not respecting your preferences back » would be like in this context.
Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Hypolite Petovan
•Roland Häder
•The first one was more as a third party. A trusted friend of mine told me about his friend doing one-night stands. He (his friend) was in Singapore and was looking for an #ONS . He found on streets a nice looking lady and they agreed for it so they went to his hotel. She was beautiful on all edges, nice skin (no birthmarks), long black straight hair and so on. Then they talked there a little and got into action. When she undressed her upper cloths and opens her bra, he said it was all perfect, nice round breasts with large nipples (no objectification intended by him) ... until she opened her underwear (means exposing her genitals)... show more
The first one was more as a third party. A trusted friend of mine told me about his friend doing one-night stands. He (his friend) was in Singapore and was looking for an #ONS . He found on streets a nice looking lady and they agreed for it so they went to his hotel. She was beautiful on all edges, nice skin (no birthmarks), long black straight hair and so on. Then they talked there a little and got into action. When she undressed her upper cloths and opens her bra, he said it was all perfect, nice round breasts with large nipples (no objectification intended by him) ... until she opened her underwear (means exposing her genitals).
He was so much shocked down to the bones (don't worry, he does fine now) and had to use all his diplomatic words and efforts he could come up with that he has an issue with her genitals, a penis with a testicle sack.
I had a similar issue in my past and will not go to ladies with a TS in their profiles anymore, to say it openly. When we were doing #sixty-nine I know for 110% that transsexuals are not my thing at all.
The next was on #Okcupid where I also found my now-girlfriend. But before her I messaged there with a (I believed) #straight woman (her profile didn't state transsexual) but I also wondered why she looked so #boyish to me. I also sent my now-girlfriend links to her images and she agreed with me that she looks very boyish. So I decided to politely ask if she was a transsexual as she always looked so boyish to me (and to my now-girlfriend). She asked back if that would be a problem with me and I said "Yes, it is." because of what is between her legs (a penis). I didn't say it so directly as I didn't want to offend or insult her.
Just to make my point clear: I'm not only into #heterosexual women because of their sexual identity but more importantly that they are a biological, natural woman.
The last thing then I saw and felt as heterosexual man misunderstood are the videos I already (tried to) showed to you. They (transsexual activists) have really absolutely NO right in telling us (heterosexual) what we have to feel and not to feel and who we date (for romance/sex/LTR/ONS/...) and not date. That's what I have an issue with.
Hypolite Petovan
•My bottom line still is, your sexual preferences are your sexual preferences, and no one else but yourself needs to know about it, especially since they are so exclusionary, because they can be hurtful to simply read.
You will get no medal from me from stating them here for sure.
Roland Häder
•I don't suck dick, I lick pussy. And I don't need a medal from you or anyone. Just respect heterosexual men's/women's preferences and we are all good.
Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Many years (over 20 already!) back, I shared a room in a boarding house with a gay. He started finding me attractive as I was very slim (70-60-90, metric system, circumference on chest-waist-butt cheeks). He tried his "best" efforts to make my bed uncomfortable as much as possible and invited me almost daily to join his bed. Then one day (not night!), I was in his bed and he wanted me to relax so he can suck my penis. I felt so very awkward next to him that I had to speak with the educators about it and I had to let them call him off from me, that I'm not gay but heterosexual.
The next gays I met was then here in #... show more
Many years (over 20 already!) back, I shared a room in a boarding house with a gay. He started finding me attractive as I was very slim (70-60-90, metric system, circumference on chest-waist-butt cheeks). He tried his "best" efforts to make my bed uncomfortable as much as possible and invited me almost daily to join his bed. Then one day (not night!), I was in his bed and he wanted me to relax so he can suck my penis. I felt so very awkward next to him that I had to speak with the educators about it and I had to let them call him off from me, that I'm not gay but heterosexual.
The next gays I met was then here in #Krefeld already and when I went to shopping and saw #vegan activism group I spoke to the group. Later I found out that 3 were gays. They showed all the respect towards me being a heterosexual and we even joked about anal sex. It was really fun with them and I'm thankful to them that none (2 were a couple, 1 was single) of them tried to question my sexuality.
An other more indirect encounter was in #Dortmund where I went to a Psychedelic Trance party called #Nibirii . There I saw a lesbian couple. I was about to approach them and wish them all love and luck in their relationship but I was to shy to do it. Next time, I do it! Let's show respect to reach other and our preferences.
Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Frank Wijnans
•Frank Wijnans
•This kind of proudness is a way to meet like minded people.
Hypolite Petovan
•Frank Wijnans
•I know that's a rocky road, with no guarantee of success, but starting out with a trans blocks it immediately.
Roland Häder
•Hypolite Petovan
•Roland Häder
•And have transsexuals ever though of how they have been created or made? By a sexual act involving sperm fertilizing an ovum. Humanity doesn't exist because of we adopt children (from other what then?), humanity exist because we MAKE children and that always requires both, one sperm cell and one ovum.
Sure, for many couples (declining birthrates in "Western" countries) it isn't about having children but they should really consider a brutal and scary, horrifying fact:
Your bloodline that exist for millions of years and through hundred-thousands of generates ends irreversible with YOU!
Nanook
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Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Hypolite Petovan
•Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Plus, I don't date my own family members.
Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Roland Häder
•I want to enjoy life, too. And it is short. Still I make sure that I have at least one or two descendants with at least one of my partners and I do have one own daughter. 😀
Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Nanook
•Roland Häder
•Hypolite Petovan
•I don't understand where this natalism comes from but I don't want to have to do anything with it. You want kids, have kids, leave other people be.
Frank Wijnans
•Roland Häder
•Frank Wijnans
•Roland Häder
•Frank Wijnans
•Frank Wijnans
•Roland Häder
•Frank Wijnans
•There's more in a hetrosexual relationship than the looks of the body.
The fertility-dimension is part of it, even if you're not planning to have children.
Roland Häder
•Hypolite Petovan
•Please take your weird insecurity about sexuality and reproduction elsewhere, this is the last time I'll ask.
Nanook
•of those sufficient to solve this problem?
Roland Häder
•Let Barf from #Spaceballs speak for me: "It's not us."
Roland Häder
•YouTube: #Walkaway: Heterophobia and Bullying
Roland Häder
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