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For so many of us, coming out isn't just about ourselves--it's about the people we love most, and especially our partners.

But we do come out to them, and then the person we love the most is faced with the reality that, "Oh, s#!t, my partner just told me they're trans." What the fuck do I do?!

They deserve support in those tender first moments, and this week, I'm going to try and give them a little with a jumbo edition of #StainedGlassWoman!

#MtF #FtM #Nonbinary #TDoV

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-partner-just-told-me-theyre

An image of hands clasped, with a prismatic rainbow splayed across them. On it is written, "Oh shit, my partner just told me they're trans. What you need to know when your partner got their gender wrong."
This entry was edited (5 months ago)
@Doc Impossible This is good and light-hearted, but it couldn't have prepared me to my partner transitioning and then immediately stopping trusting me. I'm not even sure anyone could be prepared to this but as I found out, it happens.
I don't know that there's anything anyone could ever right that'd prepare you for a major trust breach. I'm so sorry.