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TW: Pure unadulterated #sexism

At a professional conference my partner is currently attending, there's another woman whose husband was supposed to take care of their 2-year old kid while she was away for the week. Today, on day 2 of the conference, he called her to say she needs to come home because he's sick and take care of him and the kid. He has refused to call his brother or her sister who are 20 minutes away for help.

There's no happy ending, the woman is now rushing to pack to catch a flight back home this evening. Despite making me, of all people, look incredibly good, this shit is making me absolutely livid. How many women's lives have been absolutely wrecked by this kind of unchecked patriarchal entitlement?

The thought is dizzying me once again.
#sexism
#TBL Tatted Biker Lady
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wow that is so sad.
But she does make sure this will go on by actually doing what he wants, so it's not only his fault but hers as well.
Hypolite Petovan
Hypolite Petovan  
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@#TBL Tatted Biker Lady No, my partner actually tried to offer alternatives, and basically either she would have made her life even more difficult if she involved anyone else in the situation or she was risking her kid’s life by trying to force him to care. She was definitely stuck between a rock and a hard place, one of which being the well-being of her kid that her husband is using as leverage to get what he wants.
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Yes in this instance I can understand, when you consider the safety of the child. But this is behaviour that has built up over time is what I mean. In their relationship from the start. And she must have accepted this kind of behaviour before, because if she hadn' t, he wouldn' t have asked her to do this and contacted his family or friends closeby to help him instead.
It's nice of your partner trying to help with alternatives, must have been a shock to see this happen... people never cease to surprise do they.
Yeah using a child as leverage is such a low thing to do... makes me sad 🙁
Hypolite Petovan
Hypolite Petovan  
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@#TBL Tatted Biker Lady Yeah, my partner was pretty incensed by the whole situation. And unfortunately for heterosexual women, this is what they have to contend with or their relationship and family prospects (which they are urged about by society in general) become extremely limited.

There is also this latent (and unfortunately misplaced) expectation that with a child, men's behavior can somewhat improve or change. Behaviors that were bearable without a child can become straight child endangerment.
#TBL @#TBL Tatted Biker Lady
#TBL Tatted Biker Lady
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I can imagine...
Yes it does indeed depend on the environment/ circles they grow up in though.
I am glad to say my family especially my mother's side, was pretty modern when it comes to that. Very lucky that way I must say.

Ah yes that too, you never know how a relationship changes with a great change in family dynamics as the birth of a child.
Hypolite Petovan
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@#TBL Tatted Biker Lady I'm also grateful to my parents for having consistently demonstrated a healthy heterosexual relationship is possible. It's only later that I realized how rare it was.
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